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Family Dynamics - Some background information

See also: Family Constellation Work | Counseling | Brain Health


[This will be re-written to explain the Family Dynamics aspect of Applied Psycho-Neurobiology and the technique that Dr. Klinghardt teaches for dealing with stresses that I now attribute to being transmitted via the "Social Nervous System", part of the Triune Autonomic Nervous System described by Dr. Porges. I would like to also show the possible explanation of Family Constellation Work dynamics as being caused by the flow of Orgone energy (discovered by Wilhelm Reich, M.D. and taught through the American College of Orgonomy) through the bodies of the living and how this is impacted by the resonance of ancestors whose energies left traces in the biophysical record that is passed from generation to generation.]

Constellations books: Hellinger and others [see his web site for details]

See also: Birth Order: The order of health; what your family ranking reveals about your medical destiny

Klinghardt's Five Levels of Healing: Includes Family Constellation Work [more]

The information below is excerpted from article by Dietrich Klinghardt, M.D., Ph.D.

These are some items from the larger article on Applied Psycho-Neurobiology. There is a lot of information on the internet about Family Dynamics; two approaches are the work of Denny Johnson and his Rayid Family Birth Order information, and the work of Burt Hellinger and his Family Constellation work. 

Note: the items he lists below are different than the current Hellinger community considers most useful. Comments I received about the differences include:

...I noticed something that could be confusing to readers.   Events that can lead to unresolved psycho-emotional conflicts come out of one’s personal biography (conception to the present) and are susceptible to resolution with APN 1 (PK) - colored glasses, eye movements, tapping, etc.   Those issues, like weaning and toilet training, from the Klinghardt list that appears on your link, do not usually lead to entanglements. Another list you have seen and refer to as one used by the Hellinger community includes the kinds of events that are transpersonal, go beyond one’s biographical history and often lead to entanglements with ancestors or other “family” members like aborted siblings, former spouses, victims, perpetrators.....  These issues are addressed with APN 2, Family Constellations – either on the table a la Klinghardt with guided imagery, or in workshops.   A key distinction, though of course life tends to be sloppy and they interact....

Events That Frequently Leave Behind an Unresolved Psycho-Emotional Conflict

The intra-uterine period:

  • Emotional problems between parents at the time of conception or later during pregnancy
  • Thoughts of abortion
  • Attempted abortion
  • Feelings of older siblings about the ever-increasing loss of attention by the mother
  • Physiological problems in the womb (mother's smoking, amalgam fillings, alcohol abuse, illnesses, accidents, medical drugs - especially psychopharmacological medications taken by mother, malnutrition)
  • Being aware of a twin dying ("vanishing twin"), 6-10% of all pregnancies start as twin-pregnancies, less than 2% of pregnancies end with the birth of twins
  • Birth and the time before, during, and after (drugs, trauma,)
  • Post-birth trauma: needle pricks to heel, silver nitrate in the eyes, cutting the umbilical cord, circumcision and other invasive procedures often without proper anesthesia.

The early years:

  • Birth of younger siblings
  • Emotional climate with parents and older siblings
  • Weaning the baby (too early, too late, etc . . .)
  • Not breastfeeding
  • Traumatic toilet training
  • Relationship with babysitter
  • Early sexual abuse Drug use by parents
  • Physical abuse
  • Emotional abuse or abandonment
  • Neglect
  • Childhood diseases
  • Illnesses/hospital stays of a parent
  • Relationship to pets, nature, other kids
  • Kindergarten
  • The young years:
  • First day in school
  • Relationship to teachers and other students
  • Moving
  • Changing school
  • Academic performance
  • Athletic performance
  • Dealing/becoming conscious of physical impairment
  • The locker room
  • Relationship with kids of the opposite gender
  • Social roles
  • Roles in the family
  • Abusive parents

Puberty Adolescence:

  • Academic/athletic performance
  • First romance
  • Competition
  • Peer groups/peer pressure
  • Fights/injuries
  • Operations: tonsils, appendix
  • Dental interventions - placement of amalgam fillings (causes shyness, etc . . .)
  • Parties/dancing
  • Ritual abuse, cults, black magic
  • Sports
  • Accidents
  • Divorce of parents
  • Physical/emotional abuse
  • First sexual experiences
  • Abortion
  • Betrayal/broken trust in first deep, often non-sexual relationship
  • Disappointments
  • Depression/thoughts of - or attempted suicide
  • College/separation from family/friends
  • First drug experience
  • Academic pressure

The grown-up years:

  • They never come
  • Relationship problems
  • Separation from a loved one
  • Broken friendships
  • Academic failure
  • Divorce
  • Death of a loved one
  • Financial disasters
  • Financial problems
  • Failure (job, university, relationship, sports)
  • Legal problems (jail, convictions)
  • Illnesses (of oneself or loved ones)
  • Diagnosis of a serious illness
  • Loss of energy
  • Loss of sex drive
  • Signs of aging

All of these events and circumstances may leave an Unresolved Psycho-Emotional conflict behind or the patient can negotiate them successfully (that simply means the person becomes more mature and stronger because of the way the conflict was negotiated and navigated).